Are you Pro-POC and Pro-Minorities or are you actually working so hard to appear not racist and/or you actually fetishize POCs and Minorities?

Remember what Grandma taught us:

“Even the Devil was an Angel.”

Not all people who say they are “on our side” actually want to see us thrive.

This is such a complicated matter and the conversations I have been having with my students have been so emotional and we all have been learning more about ourselves and the world.

But one topic that keeps coming up:

Are the white people helping POCs and Minorities, do they really care about us or are they so loud in their “Oh, I am totally not racist” that they are fetishizing us mixed with White Savior Complex?

There is a fine line between

a White person educating other White people about how to not be colorblind

and

when a white person thinks they are the “authority” (White Savior) on POC and Minority matters.

Sometimes when a white person is so loud in their anti-racist acts, it is going to be questioned

-Did you consult any POCs or Minorities?

-Are POCs and Minorities standing with you and your message (which is really OUR message but your non-melanation sometimes helps people hear the message but that’s a whole different post)

-Are you working with your Kink, Swinger, and Queer groups to work with them about Respectful Diversity?

-And how many times has a group tried to put any POC and Minority on their board/in a leadership position without looking at their credentials? Stop doing this; we are not your “Tokens” to be a display of your “commitment” to equality.

Speaking of leaders, people who lead spaces should EARN those positions. The nepotism is showing and just because your “friend is super cool and goes to parties” doesn’t mean they have leadership skills.

So, do you actually care more about POCs and Minorities or do you care if people perceive you as NOT racist?